April Snow, Self-Discovery, Maturity

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I was walking around in the snow today (yes, snow. In Denver. All of the second-to-last day of APRIL) and I started thinking even deeper than usual (there’s just something about the peaceful silence of falling snow that sends my mind into serenity). I was having a conversation with one of my friends about another one of my friends. I told my friend that my other friend had known for the majority of his life that he wanted to be a missionary. My friend’s immediate response was along the lines of, “Why would you want to spend your life making such little money?” The truth is, I’ve always envied my friend’s vision of his future as a missionary. Not for any religious regions, but because he so clearly knew what he wanted to do. I told this to the friend I was conversing with and he said, “It’s better to open your mind.” But, is that even related? At about this point, the friend I was conversing with walked the other direction from me, leaving me alone with my thoughts.

I don’t think that knowing what you want to do means that you close your mind. Rather, I would say that knowing what you want to do means that you close your heart. That may sound kind of pessimistic, but that’s not my intention. Let me try an analogy to explain this: knowing what you want to do (or not) is like relationships. When someone is searching for love, the term that’s frequently used is, “They leave their heart open.” So, when someone finds their significant other and marries that person, that would mean that their heart closes. But, marriage is not a bad thing. In fact, the reason someone opens their heart is to close it for good. It’s weird to think about, right? But, when you know what you want to do, your heart closes. In the meantime, someone who is searching for what they want to do leaves their heart open to different possibilities for their future. And, like in relationships, leaving your heart open to search for your purpose can begin to hurt after a while. The pain comes from societal expectations. Most people have others in their life that expect them to know what they want to do and expect them to get married. Eventually, they adapt these same expectations and they internalize them. It’s amazing to think about how few people are doing EXACTLY what they, as individuals, want to be doing. I’m spiraling now. My point is this: my friend and I are both right. It’s great to leave your options open, but there is also great benefit to committing. In my opinion, part of growing up is learning to commit.

My perspective there deeply intrigues me. I often get complimented by others about how mature I am for my age, but I am very immature in the sense that I just described. I am terrible with commitment. That’s a result of a few different scenarios, I suppose. Sometimes I just don’t know to what I want to commit, and sometimes I don’t commit the way I should (meaning, I either work WAY too hard or I don’t work NEARLY hard enough). This leads me to wonder: Exactly what constitutes maturity?

Does April snow make May things grow?

When did you find out what you want to do? How?

When have you opened/closed your heart/mind?

How do you define maturity?

That’s all for TheHaysWay today, I would love to hear your responses to the questions above along with anything else that is on your mind. Please leave a much-appreciated like. If you are not yet a follower, open (or close?) your heart and become a follower. 🙂 Have a pleasant tomorrow and may the force be with you.

2017 NFL Mock Draft and Beard Status

First of all, I would like to thank everyone who voted online about whether or not I should shave my beard. The majority of you voted that I should shave (or at least trim) my beard, however, you were outnumbered by the people here at DU, who recommended that I continue to grow the beard. In fact, I don’t think one person that I asked on campus said I should shave it. As such, my beard remains in its current, lush state.

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Second of all, I finished my second 2017 First-Round NFL Mock Draft a couple of days ago, and it is posted on the ‘Mock Draft’ page. I also realized that I never posted my FIRST Mock Draft for this year, and that is linked at the bottom of the ‘Mock Draft’ page. For your convenience, both documents are also linked below:

2017 NFL Mock Draft 1.0

2017 NFL Mock Draft 2.0

That’s all for TheHaysWay today, make sure to leave a comment on the beard status and/or on my Mock Drafts and/or on whatever is on your mind, along with a much-appreciated like. If you are not yet a follower, become a follower to get more cool updates like my Mock Drafts. 🙂 Have a pleasant tomorrow.

Should I Shave or Should I Grow (More)?

So, my original plan was to shave on Saturday, April 22, 2017. Why? Because the last time I completely shaved off my beard was April 22, 2016. A week after that, I had IB tests. Two weeks after that, my girlfriend and I broke up. So, I was thinking that I should do it again on the same day to show the world that I’m not afraid of what it can try to do to bring me down. I will overcome, and I will punch the world in the face. But, I’ve experienced mixed opinions on my plan, so I want to settle this once and for all.

Take a look at the following picture, then cast your vote by clicking on this link to the poll. (If the poll doesn’t embed in the post correctly, just reply to this post with your vote.)

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NBA Playoffs, Listen Don’t Speak

So, the NBA Playoffs are officially set! The bracket looks like this:

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Courtesy of Business Insider

And it will eventually look like this:

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Courtesy of Yours Truly

It’s not the rematch the world wants, but it’s the rematch the world deserves. This time, skill trumps heart, as the addition of F Kevin Durant leads the Golden State Warriors to the 4-1 NBA Finals victory they almost had last year over the Cleveland Cavaliers, who play A LOT LESS like a team this year as compared to last year.

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Which leads quite nicely into the following lesson…
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True. We all construct our own reality through our vastly different perceptions.
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Quote of the Day

This Quote of the Day is one I know my mom will love, and it’s definitely one that belongs on a shirt! This quote is basically shouting, “Shut up and LISTEN!!!” That’s something very few people are actually capable of doing. I try to listen as frequently as possible (maybe that’s why I seem to have so many friends who won’t stop making noises with their face-holes).  Life is far more interesting if you spend more time listening than you spend speaking. If you listen, you’ll hear stories. Stories of happiness, sadness, love, catastrophe, etc. It’s amazing to hear so many different stories from so many different individuals, all sharing their highly unique version of reality based on what they perceive. If you ask a person to share ONE story with you, you can learn: their top priority in life, whether they are an optimist or a pessimist, how deeply they feel, how deeply they care, among so many other things. If you ask for many stories from many different individuals, you will be able to piece together your own, unique perception of reality by building off of the building blocks given to you by others. In fact, I’m challenging you: see how long you can go without speaking a single word while you’re awake. Just listen and think. I would venture to guess most people could not get past five hours, so that’s your goal (remember, the challenge only stands while you’re awake because you can’t really listen effectively if you’re asleep). Let me know how well you do.

That’s all for TheHaysWay today, make sure to leave a comment on the NBA Playoffs (specifically, your own prediction) and/or on the quotes and/or on listening instead of speaking and/or on whatever is on your mind, along with a much-appreciated like. If you are not yet a follower, become a follower to make me feel like I’ve won my own NBA Finals. 🙂 Have a pleasant tomorrow.

 

Sociology of Hair

Before I begin, I’d like to mention that Sunday was my two year anniversary of blogging! That’s right, two years ago Sunday I composed my first blog post. As you can tell, my blog has changed a lot since then, mostly due to the fact that I’ve changed a lot since then. I’m a vastly different person now than I was when I started this blog two years ago. Since then, I have gone from high school to college, I have learned how to live independently, I have experienced heartbreak, I have improved as a writer, I have learned how to better express myself, I have grown a very lush beard, etc. I’ll transcribe something a little more retrospective in a day or two, but I want to move on to the topic I came into this post wanting to write about:

So, I was sitting in my sociology class the other day and I was scanning the classroom when it suddenly occurred to me: more guys in the class had curly hair, while more girls in the class had straight hair. That made me curious: Why? When I originally googled it, I got the usual response about how women make up their hair like crazy. I wanted a better answer than that, so I decided to employ some researching techniques I have learned in my Writing class this quarter. I hopped over to Google Scholar (scholar.google.com) (if you haven’t tried it or heard of it, you’re now hearing about it and you should try it. It’s like a college library version of Google) and found this article about the sociology of hair.

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I didn’t find a definitive answer to my original inquiry, but I did find some interesting research on the perceptions of males and females with various hair colors. I found it so interesting, that I am including it in this post:

Male Perception of Female Hair Colors

  • Redheads: Active Executive Type, No-Nonsense, Physically Unattractive
  • Blondes: Beautiful, Rich, Extremely Feminine
  • Dark-Haired: Good, Intelligent, Familiar

Female Perception of Male Hair Colors

  • Redheads: Good, Effeminate, Timid and Weak
  • Blondes: Attractive, Successful, Happy
  • Dark-Haired: Average

Personally, I found both gender perceptions of redheads to be highly offensive, primarily because I am a redhead. However, the ‘weak’ portion definitely applies to me; I haven’t hit the gym since fall quarter. I also prefer that detailed description to the ‘average’ perception of dark-haired males. Also, I’ve dated a dark-haired girl before and neither ‘good’ nor ‘intelligent’ would necessarily hit the mark. So, I take this research with a grain of salt. It basically comes to the conclusion that a person is only attractive if they’re blonde, and that’s simply not true. Nevertheless, the article was a fascinating read, and I encourage you to take a closer look at it (maybe check out the sections about hair extensions, facial hair, etc). Also, the facial hair portion contradicted the hair color portion; Facial hair is stated to show masculinity (which makes sense since the ‘bearded lady’ is a circus act), which would counter the ‘effeminate’ view of redheads in my case. But, then, I already knew that I am a contradiction in pretty much every way imaginable.

That’s all for TheHaysWay today, make sure to leave a comment on my two year blogging anniversary and/or on the sociology of hair and/or on whatever is on your mind, along with a much appreciated like. If you are not yet a follower, become a follower to create your own perception of this redhead. 🙂 Have a pleasant tomorrow.

Star Wars, Lucifer, Life, Love

I’ve a lot to discuss in this post:

First of all, I suppose I owe all of you an explanation for my last post. I posted a link to the song And So It Goes by Billy Joel, and I typed up the lyrics to the song. I was going to write some sort of introduction and/or conclusion for that post, but I decided to just let you think about it without my opinions influencing you in any way. So, what did you think? Let me know in the comments (and write a comment about your thoughts on the song BEFORE reading on).

Now, here’s my opinion on the song: I was introduced to the song by a friend who I won’t see for two years because he is Mormon and about to head off on his mandatory mission (for the record, I’m not Mormon). It is an INCREDIBLY powerful song. The lyrics themselves are a poem, which is beautiful enough in talking about the longing for love and the complex nature of love between two people. Add in the longing tone with which Joel performs the song and the minor tonality of the song, and…wow. It’s one of those very few songs that is so beautiful and powerful that it brings tears to my eyes when I listen to it. EVERY time I listen to it.

Second of all, have you ever heard people say that they’re bad at life? I know I have. I have probably even said it before in the past, and maybe you have as well. But, after some very serious thought on the matter, I have decided that people are not bad at life. Rather, life is bad at life. Think about it. So many people say that life sucks when something gets screwed up, but many people say that sort of thing, and each person says it about different somethings getting screwed up. That means that life being bad is the only constant in there. So, life is bad at life. Somehow that all makes sense in my head. 🙂

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Third of all, today was the Rogue One: A Star Wars Story Blu-Ray and DVD release day. So, being the massive Star Wars nerd/geek/fanatic (pick whichever one(s) you like the most) I am, I of course purchased the movie. Just to throwback and shout-out to a couple of my old posts: here is my no-spoiler review and my spoiler review for the movie. So, I was watching the bonus content for the movie when a quote that I heard caught my attention. I didn’t hear it clearly enough to remember it the first time I heard it, so I reversed to take a second crack and write it down when it was said. One of the Lucasfilm reps that worked on Rogue One: A Star Wars Story said, “What makes something a Saga film is: it’s related to the Skywalker family in some way.” Basically, she revealed once and for all that Rey is a Skywalker. Star Wars Episode VII: The Force Awakens is a Saga film, therefore it’s related to the Skywalker family. Now, Luke and Leia are both still alive, but remember, Leia is essentially an Organa…or a Solo now (basically, she’s never known as Leia Skywalker) and her son, Kylo Ren, is definitely a Solo. This means that the only way that Rey is NOT a Skywalker is if Luke continues to be the focal point of this new trilogy. The logical assumption is that Rey is the Skywalker because she was the main protagonist in Star Wars Episode VII: The Force Awakens. But don’t forget, the whole movie was about the search for Luke, which would make it very much related to the Skywalker family in some way. Futhermore, the title for the next movie in the trilogy is Star Wars Episode VIII: The Last Jedi. We know from Star Wars Episode VI: The Return of the Jedi that Luke is a Jedi Knight, while Star Wars Episode VII: The Force Awakens never declared Rey to be a Jedi. So Luke may very well be that name sake “Last Jedi”. We are down to two possibilities, so what do you think? Will Lucasfilm go predictable and make Rey a Skywalker, or will Luke regain the focal point in this new trilogy?

Fourth of all, Timothy Omundson is joining the cast of Lucifer! The man who played Detective Carlton Jebediah “Danger” Lassiter or “Lassie” on the greatest television show of all time (Psych) (side note: Happy Birthday to Psych star James Roday who played Shawn Spencer!) will be playing God in the second greatest television show of all time (Lucifer). I’M PSYCHED! (See what I did there?) Also, apparently he voiced some rebellion characters in Star Wars Battlefront II. He is one of those very few actors/actresses that can act the phone book.

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That’s all for TheHaysWay today, make sure to leave a comment on your thoughts about And So It Goes and/or on life being bad at life and/or on Rogue One: A Star Wars Story and/or on any Star Wars conspiracy theory and/or on Timothy Omundson and/or on Lucifer and/or on whatever is on your mind, along with a much-appreciated like. If you are not yet a follower, become a follower for Star Wars‘ sake! 🙂 Have a pleasant tomorrow.

And So It Goes – Billy Joel

And So It Goes            Billy Joel

In every heart there is a room
A sanctuary safe and strong
To heal the wounds from lovers past
Until a new one comes along

I spoke to you in cautious tones
You answered me with no pretense
And still I feel I said too much
My silence is my self defense

And every time I’ve held a rose
It seems I only felt the thorns
And so it goes, and so it goes
And so will you soon I suppose

But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake
So I will share this room with you
And you can have this heart to break

And this is why my eyes are closed
It’s just as well for all I’ve seen
And so it goes, and so it goes
And you’re the only one who knows

So I would choose to be with you
That’s if the choice were mine to make
But you can make decisions too
And you can have this heart to break

And so it goes, and so it goes
And you’re the only one who knows